Judith RicheyThe next time guilt or discomfort arrives after a decision, see if you can notice the urge to immediately do something about it. You don’t have to argue with the feeling or judge yourself for having it. And you don’t have to obey it.
Judith RicheySomewhere along the way, “be nice” can start carrying a lot more weight than we realize. Your hurt still matters. Your needs still matter. Your voice still matters. What is happening inside you belongs in the conversation, too.
Judith RicheyAt some point, self-love stops being about how kindly you speak to yourself and starts showing up in how you live. You notice when something costs you too much. You pause before saying yes. You let yourself rest without explanation. This is where self-love becomes self-respect.
Judith RicheyWhy compassion is not indulgent—and why it feels risky at first After awareness comes a crossroads. Once you notice that you're tense, tired, or overwhelmed, something else often shows up quickly: self-criticism.